tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13583344601572543.post1326152599797087631..comments2023-03-26T02:30:55.087-05:00Comments on Full Tilt Border Collies: Question for the audience...Loretta Muellerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08197255610605412423noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13583344601572543.post-36664565156626581212010-08-08T19:59:41.592-05:002010-08-08T19:59:41.592-05:00I try to focus on what I want to do and the dogs a...I try to focus on what I want to do and the dogs and keep conversations around the day at hand.<br /><br />Dog people/horse people/animal people in general have opinions, lots of opinions-(me too) but a trial is not the place to discuss the future of the sport, or body structure best suited for weave poles or any of that. Add strong opinions to trial nerves-it's just not pleasant.<br /><br />I'd rather look at a trial is sort of a party where you play with your dogs too-and keep topics light.Debra Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13455047894767524091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13583344601572543.post-58079956961606641472010-08-07T22:20:57.545-05:002010-08-07T22:20:57.545-05:00I understand this frustration, and it happens in m...I understand this frustration, and it happens in most dog related sports and is probably endemic to human nature. I do notice that people seem less friendly than when I first got into the sport- but perhaps that is because I'm no longer percieved as a beginner. <br /><br />To combat this, I try to remember why I do it. For me, it's about spending quality time with my dogs. Whenever I feel like I'm being shunned, I just remember that, and go off and shape some fun games with my canine partners. I also use trialing as an opportunity to control how I respond to situations. I always want to have a positive attitude, because that's what makes me feel great inside. Nobody else should have the power to influence my attitude and mood, unless it is for the better. <br /><br />I also look for opportunities to make someone else's experience just a little bit nicer. Easier said than done, but something that I try to do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13583344601572543.post-86011313777367871952010-08-07T21:22:10.104-05:002010-08-07T21:22:10.104-05:00What Barb says about nixing criticism is key. When...What Barb says about nixing criticism is key. When I walk off the field, I don't want to walk into a knot of handlers waiting to tell me everything I did wrong. <br /><br />I have gone so far as to say, "Wow, I really liked part X," and if they continue, I simply say, "I'd rather focus on the positive parts of my run right now. I'm sure there is plenty to fix, but I was happy with that."Moniquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17590279128673190945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13583344601572543.post-62949721010490560672010-08-06T14:42:16.727-05:002010-08-06T14:42:16.727-05:00I stay away from people with that (repeatedly) kin...I stay away from people with that (repeatedly) kind of attitude. Sure, people have bad days, but if you are *always* pissed at the world, then mumble about it to yourself. I generally hang out with people who are fun. <br /><br />There're a few people who generally point out what I have done wrong, and as much as I try to avoid them somehow they manage to find me. I recently have planned out a "you know, all you ever say to me is negative, in all honesty I would rather not hear it" but I have yet to use that to them. (I am waitin' for the chance). <br /><br />One reason I wear headphones with my mp3 player is to drown that out when I am walking. The endless discussion on rules and "this is so hard" crap that some people just always have to spew. <br /><br />I am going to take a lot of time off from trialing this fall to retrain Speck's Contacts (to running, lord help me!) and I thought I would miss the social aspect of trialing and I thought to myself---I can still see my friends away from the ring and I don't think I will miss it much. <br /><br />Get a mp3 player, put some good music on and read a book.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07519175744338184373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13583344601572543.post-4563553046798021032010-08-05T06:04:27.765-05:002010-08-05T06:04:27.765-05:00We are lucky to have some supportive friends in th...We are lucky to have some supportive friends in the agility world here and we just hang out with them. If I hear anyone being negative, I ignore them. I like what Diana said about paying it forward!Chris and Rickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052668808100244423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13583344601572543.post-40135789500112044922010-08-04T18:14:58.307-05:002010-08-04T18:14:58.307-05:00Just ignore it!
I look at it as: It isn't my ...Just ignore it!<br /><br />I look at it as: It isn't my problem and unless someone is telling me something directly to my face...i simply..JUST DON'T CARE!!<br /><br />Stuff gets said and that is just the way agility, flyball, herding,and life in general is!THE Princess Diarieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02818752674134563397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13583344601572543.post-66588491557464737742010-08-04T16:20:30.849-05:002010-08-04T16:20:30.849-05:00I understand your frustration. I don't have it...I understand your frustration. I don't have it too much in agility, but in stockdog stuff its really hard. I try to keep my relationships one-on-one and steer the conversation away or end it when it gets negative. If it gets gossipy, I just excuse myself. And yes, then everyone thinks I'm a bitch.Moniquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17590279128673190945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13583344601572543.post-17736350309428324362010-08-04T14:57:23.653-05:002010-08-04T14:57:23.653-05:00Ive had that happen to me and Im not even good at ...Ive had that happen to me and Im not even good at agility. I hardly talk to anyone at trials. But I have found a few people that are very nice and I know I can talk to them without any negativity. Plus my instructor is awesome at making you feel good about something in your run even when you feel like it was a disaster. So I usually try to pay it forward. So maybe you can hang out with a student, who may need a pick me up too. Sorry people are mean. And sorry I dont have any great words of wisdome. DianaDianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16378710392378543981noreply@blogger.com